Many people want to be socially desirable and do. Yet, despite their sincere efforts, they are not effective in increasing their popularity. When their friends try to shore them up, encouraging them to look at their traits, they understand that something is not right.
Many individuals come to me asking how they can become more interesting people. They are conscious that others do not remain with them very long bit seem anxious to disconnect engaged. Some understand the topic becomes too uncomfortable to talk about that they choke in situations. Others tell me that they just can not think of things to say at the moment begin to feel awkward and to keep the conversation going. But most are confused, not understanding why others view them as they perform. Discouraged and frustrated, they desperately need to understand what they can do to solve their painful issue.
Since I have heard these discouraging and sad stories so many occasions, I have taken a special interest in detecting what makes some people pull and excite others, but others don't sustain interest. A number can be learned, although Occasionally, of course, it's just a matter of being born with a character that is socially desirable. I firmly believe that individuals who have not been able to maintain their audiences can learn to bring people closer and keep from shoving them away.
In learning any new manner of being the first step would be to courageously look at what hasn't worked in the past. Exploring social faux pas that is previous is difficult for anybody and will only help if any are placed aside in the process. Societal mistakes leave consequences for everyone, but, they can be the basis of things to leave behind and to activate the motivation to understand everything does work if they are seen as learning experiences.
Caveat: Most individuals are not famous, fascinating, exciting lovely, well-travelled, hysterically funny, charismatic, or especially exceptional. It is so important not Youtube to compare yourself. The goal is to improve on who you already are, not to wish you were someone else.
There are behaviors that can either turn people away or make them want to come closer and basic personality traits. The first class is really easier. Most people can readily learn what they might be doing that either bores or alienates others. The second, obtaining the personality characteristics and behaviors that attract, takes practice, but once achieved, is rewarding.